There are certain phrases we rely on to get us through tough times. Phrases that we hope will bring us comfort and make some sense out of situations when there is no logic, only grief.
As per usual I want to decipher the origin of such phrases in hopes of obtaining a deeper understanding why they continue to be crutches for our emotional well being.
As an avid fan of the Golden Girls the character of Sophia Petrillo perfectly delivers many lines. One of the most famous and funny is the one in the photo above. It is is so popular in fact that while trying to locate the history of this idiom the most common responses were from that show. After a few hours of research without finding serious answers it no longer seemed to amuse me.
Finally I was able to crack the case.
For those that don’t know “A Blessing in Disguise” is defined as “something good that isn’t recognizable at first”. Hence the confusion of why something that is positive needs to surface only after something negative first happens. It seems like a cruel irony.
Like all too many of my endeavors of this kind I arrive in the land of religion. I suppose I have been blind to the great influences it has subliminally in our daily lives.
It seems that 2 Corinthians 12:10 in the Bible reads:
“We don’t often thank God for our trials, heartaches, and difficulties. Although we are willing to praise Him for His goodness, we sometimes fail to realize that even adverse circumstances are blessings in disguise………
Because it is in those difficult places that we discover the sufficiency of His grace. In our trials, we turn to God. As we depend on Him, we find that His strength is made perfect in our weakness.”
It as if part of the blessing of a trying moment is that God, if you believe in him or her, will provide you with comfort that makes said tragedy easier.
Another scripture reads:
“God really does bring good out of everything that happens to people who love Him.”
Does this mean that if you don’t believe you will never find the blessings hiding in disguise in your life?
I struggle with faith on a regular basis. A huge part of me wants to believe, hoping that with believing there is certain peace associated with it. But I am not one to believe anything wholeheartedly simply on its alleged merits. I like proof and often in the world there are too many examples of proof proving the opposing view.
A case in point is a classic St. Jude commercial where a toddler is wheeling a doll carriage down the hall of the hospital with an IV (of chemo I assume) in one arm.
If there is a God and he wants us to turn to him in times of trouble for comfort to show us His blessing, than I beg of him to explain that sight to me.
I also see too many people continue to have to survive life-altering hardships, one after another, while there are those that for lack of a better phrase “get away with murder”. If what doesn’t kills us makes us stronger, then why does anyone get to live a life of empty of the kinds of challenges that will enable him to remain weak? Perhaps ignorance truly is bliss.
If blessings are walking around wearing disguises to teach us faith; then there should be no chance of anyone having circumstances that create abstention.
As for me, I would much rather celebrate blessings in their purist form.
In light of recent personal events that occurred prior to this Find Out Friday, this topic shockingly hit a bit too close to home for me. I am not sure that on this particular day I feel grateful for that which tests us only as a measure to bond us to our faith.
But at the end of each day I do try to be grateful for what I have instead of what could be better. I know it could always be worse and part of the true blessings I possess is the wisdom to know the difference.
All of a sudden the memory of hearing “blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted” in church has a whole new meaning.
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